This is a must watch video for any Christian husband…

Recently, Stacy ran a series of articles on the struggles some Christian wives face regarding marital intimacy. There were a number of causes for these struggles, but often the common source was a foolish and thoughtless Christian husband. We’ve discovered that, sadly, one of the major failings in the life of the Christian husband is in the area of sexual purity—specifically, pornography.

When a wife discovers her husband is involved in pornography, she feels devalued, betrayed, and inferior. The marriage bed is defiled. The covenant relationship between husband and wife is compromised and weakened. And since the wife feels she can never measure up, she withdraws from the marriage bed and builds emotional walls. How can she compare herself with the airbrushed model in some trashy periodical, DVD, or website? Indeed, in real life, the photoshopped models themselves cannot compare!

Brothers, this is a serious issue. One survey showed that over 50% of Christian husbands admitted to being addicted to pornography. 50%! Also, the survey went on to document that over 30% of pastors confessed to the same failing! Like any addiction, a man caught in the grip of pornography will tire of the same old thing and desire something more perverse, more lustful, more wicked. Testimonies are destroyed, lives are ravaged, marriages crumble, children suffer, and finally, the ultimate goal of a godly marriage, godly seed, is destroyed. This is Satan’s tactic. If marriages fail, children’s lives are scarred. If marriages fail, more children are not born in the family. If marriages fail (even marriages without children), other marriages are weakened. The church becomes a laughing stock and God’s name is blasphemed among the heathen.

Pornography today is wrapped in anonymity. No longer does one have to sneak out to the shady side of town to find a fleshly fix. All anyone needs to do is log onto a website or pick up a magazine at the corner grocery store. Even many movies, now average fare at the theatre, would have been considered pornography when our parents were young. Our society is becoming more and more desensitized—more and more accepting of impurity. And now, like never before, we have marriages—even Christian marriages—that are dying.

The Bible gives us a stern warning:

Hebrews 13:4: Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.

My question for you today is this – is your marriage bed undefiled? Are you allowing your marriage and your intimacy to be compromised by an addiction that is spinning out of control? Have you injured your wife? Have you endangered your children? Not by physically harming them, but by satisfying your own lust?

I encourage you to ponder these words, and the little video above. And, if you find yourself in the grip of pornography, confess, repent, get help! Don’t allow the Enemy to destroy your family by deceive you into thinking “a little porn is no big deal.” Talk to your pastor. And check out the ministry of my friend Mike Cleveland, Setting Captives Free. And, regardless of whether or not you have a problem with pornography, I highly recommend you consider the Internet accountability ministry of Covenant Eyes.

May God bring healing to troubled homes, and may He protect those that have not been influenced my this modern day scourge.